Advice for Awkward People

Dear Izzy,

It’s the first month of school, and I honestly only have one goal this year – and no, it is not to have a 4.0 QPA. My one goal this year is to better my own mental health. I’m starting to realize how much time I’ve been investing into my academics, my extracurriculars, and my job search and obsessing over how I want everything to work out for me. But overall, it’s been stressing me out and taking some of my time away from the friends and the people who care about me. So this year, I’m really trying to have a better work-social life balance. Do you have any tips on how to get me started?

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First of all, go you for realizing the importance of your own mental health! And also, go you for realizing it this early in the semester. It can be easy to forget these kinds of things throughout the year, but it’s a really important priority that some people, myself definitely included, neglect.

The first thing I’d suggest is time management. Plan out when you want to work and how long you want to work for. Having that time frame will help keep the rest of your day in perspective. Most importantly, don’t forget to plan out breaks! They will help you relax a little bit from work. And with that work-life balance, you can do whatever you want.

To add onto that, write down a list of the things you love. It’ll help you remember them for those moments when you feel like you’re stressing out too much, or you’re burnt out, or you’re just overworked. And during those moments, do something from that list. Take time to remember the things you love and cherish. Doing so just might give you the much needed energy to solve that problem you’ve been stuck on or to come up with that last sentence in your paper.

Most importantly, you’re not alone. Take time to remember the people you love and cherish too. It is so easy to accidentally close yourself off from your friends in college, but don’t forget to reach out to them – even if you’re just going to grab dinner. Having friends, companions, and just other people by your side is the best way to lift up your spirits.

Hope this helps!