‘Facebook Parenting’ father does not cross the line
North Carolina father Tommy Jordan posted a video on YouTube on Feb. 8, titled “Facebook Parenting: For the troubled teen,” of himself discussing a recent Facebook post made by his daughter Hannah. For the first seven minutes of the eight-minute video, Jordan chastises his daughter for posting her complaints against her parents, calling it rude and disrespectful.
Citing that this wasn’t the first time she was irreverent, Jordan then proceeded to shoot eight bullets into the laptop that he bought and upgraded for his daughter.
As of last Friday, the video had 26.5 million views. The popularity of this video demonstrates the frustrations that many parents feel when they cannot control their children’s behavior online. While it may seem rash or extreme, Jordan’s actions neither cross the line nor become unacceptable.
The use of a gun in the video has drawn the most ire from critics. According to KSLA News 12, Child Protective Services visited Jordan’s home in order to make sure it was a safe environment for his daughter.
While his daughter’s safety is the primary concern, she was never in danger. Jordan never physically threatened his daughter during the video, only promising that she was going to be grounded for an extended amount of time. His use of the gun, while extreme, was controlled. He was not in a fit of rage while shooting — he very calmly shot the laptop.
Jordan’s video is a form of discipline that, while more public than most, does not cross the line. While the video may not be indicative of the entirety of the relationship, the actions in the video correspond appropriately to the nature of his daughter’s behavior.
Jordan’s daughter should be more embarrassed of the comments in her own post than of her father’s reactionary video.
When everything is posted, blogged, shared, and tweeted, the disciplining of children is also becoming more public. While his methods are far from normal, Jordan’s actions are justifiable and indicate the frustrations parents have at a time when children have many public outlets.