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I have been dating my high school boyfriend since two years before college, but now that I am here juggling the relationship, meeting new people, and working, everything has gotten overwhelming. I love my boyfriend and don’t want that to end, but I don’t think I am able to do justice to all three simultaneously. What should I do?
—Three’s A Crowd
Wow. That’s a really complicated and exhausting situation you’re in: You want to give your boyfriend time, but still make great friends and maintain good grades. First of all, let me remind you of the most important thing: You’re in college! You should enjoy every moment of it. If I were you, I’d make sure my grades were up to the mark and then I’d go out and meet new people, join different clubs, socialize with the kids on my floor — the works.
There are some really great people out there that are eager to get to know you. But, at the same time, I wouldn’t neglect my boyfriend. At every given instance I’d keep him in the loop, however difficult it might be to communicate and convey how I feel. Your boyfriend is probably in the same boat as you, so it’s important to understand each other and try and compromise. You’re still a lucky first-year and, believe me, this opportunity never comes back again. Just be respectful of his time, thoughts, and beliefs. Set ground rules and clearly lay out the expectations. It is much simpler with everything clearly laid out.
Live it; you deserve it,
I am in my senior year and I have been going crazy with the BOC; however, I cannot find a job that fits my bill. I’ve gotten interviews with some companies but I don’t think they interest me. What should I do? I am graduating very soon and I need to decide.
—Unhappy and Unemployed
First of all, I’d like to remind you that you are not the only one in this situation. With the increasing number of career options in today’s economy, people are becoming more choosey and can’t seem to find anything that fits their description of “the perfect job.”
I personally recommend looking into other options as well. Do you really need a job or are you willing to wait it out? You can do a master’s program or travel the world in the meantime; this can really help you figure out what you want from life. How I’d love to take a year off from school and travel the world!
If you do need a job, do some more research and try finding what suits you. There are plenty of options out there. I would highly recommend you go through your interviews and, later, narrow down your options. You can pick a job and then switch later if you find something else that works better for you. Remember, it isn’t easy to find your dream job on the first shot.
Rework your résumé,
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