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I am not able to sleep for normal periods of time these days. My eyes open up just after four hours even though I am really tired. What should I do?
— Not Able to Properly Sleep
Your problem is not uncommon at Carnegie Mellon because of the workload for students here.
Your body gets used to a certain sleep pattern and it’s hard to break out of it, but not impossible, and that’s what I am here to help you with.
First of all, avoid caffeine or energy drinks late at night. Try not to work out too late at night; you don’t want to be working on your muscles at 4 a.m. in the gym.
Also, don’t do any other high-energy activities right before you go to sleep. Instead, try using whatever relaxes you.
I use Mozart’s symphonies to drift off — there’s nothing more beautiful and calming. Also, avoid thinking about all the work you have pending for the next day. It doesn’t go away!
Finally, if all else fails, read course material from your most boring class, and you are guaranteed to doze right off.
There is this boy who I have been friends with since high school. We love spending time with each other and everything was great until he started developing feelings for me.
I like him but I don’t want to date him. How can I say “not interested” without sounding rude and affecting our friendship?
— Emotionally Messed Up
Dear Messed Up,
This really is a mess. I sympathize with you because this is not even your fault, unless you count being too good a friend and irresistible.
There’s no easy way out of this situation, and your best bet would be to tell him directly what the problem is and get him to understand why it wouldn’t work between you.
Throw in a few lines about how great a friend he has been and how you would always want him by your side as a good buddy.
Things might get awkward for a bit, but in the longer run I am sure everything will get back to the perfect state of affairs they were, and then everyone’s happy.
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