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Dear Rohit,

I’m thinking about rushing a fraternity but I’m confused. I have heard a lot of good and not so good things about the fraternities here at Carnegie Mellon. What should I do?

—On the Greek Fence

Dear Greek,

Joining a fraternity isn’t exactly an easy decision, and I know this because I faced the same problem my first year. Fortunately, you have me to give you some advice. Our years at college are perhaps the most important time in our lives and we need to make the most of it. Fraternities were developed to help students boost their social lives so that they took some time out of academics — we all know how much of it we do here — and relaxed their minds with some fun stuff. Also, they help develop a network, not only with your brothers (or sisters) but also with alumni of the fraternity, who are ever-ready to help you out.

There is a downside too, though. It takes a lot of work and time to gain and maintain membership in a fraternity, and if you are the lazy kind — which you shouldn’t be since you’re here at Carnegie Mellon — then a fraternity is probably not for you. So, just sit down and figure out what you want from your college experience and how much effort you want to put in to get it. Just remember that it is your choice to make and don’t let peer pressure affect you. Besides, you can always party with me.

Get off that fence,
—Rohit

Dear Rohit,

I am a first-year here at Carnegie Mellon and I’m feeling really lost. I haven’t really been able to make any good friends and I’m
clueless about how to spend my free time here. Can you make any suggestions?

—Depressed

Dear Depressed,

First of all, welcome to the Carnegie Mellon family. You’ve made it past one hell of an admissions process and should be proud that you survived — and that’s what you’re basically going to be doing for the next four years: surviving. Don’t worry about the lack of good friends just yet. The other first-years are most definitely going through the exact same emotions as you are while trying to jump the bridge from high school to college. We have a great system here at Carnegie Mellon to help first-years connect and interact: common housing. Use it! Start with your roommate and move onto your floormates, and in no time you will have a great group of friends that will last you through college and beyond. If you ever feel the need to talk to somebody, call your RA. They’re there to help you. As for free time, I suggest you jump with joy. This is your opportunity to get to know Carnegie Mellon better
and make use of the various clubs and activities that take place on and off this campus. So, go ahead and do just that. And remember: if you need a partner for a game of Scrabble, I’m your man.

Game on,
—Rohit