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I am a first-year computer science major and I have a lot of work to do, but, like every other student, I want to do well in school and still have a great time. For my programming class, I had an assignment that I knew would take me a while to crack. I had initially intended to stay in that night while my friends went out, but while I was about to begin, I happened to see that my roommate had left his homework assignment finished and open on his computer. I sneakily e-mailed his assignment to my computer and used his solution as an outline for mine, and so I was able to finish my homework quickly and go out with my friends. However, now I feel guilty about my actions. What should I do?
— Guilty Roommate
Dear Guilty Roommate,
College is a place where you will make several choices — some good, others bad. However, you need to be aware of the repercussions of your actions at all times. Parties and other fun opportunities will come and go, but it is up to you to make the better choice. Sometimes, people forget that they are in college to study and build a future for themselves, yet each one of us has our weak moments, so don’t beat yourself up over it.
My suggestion would be to speak to your roommate and own up to your mistake. Since he is your roommate, chances are that he might help you understand the homework better the next time, not get you into trouble, and be supportive — of course, this depends on your relationship with your roommate. There are other places on campus where you can find help, too, like Academic Development, which offers tutoring services. Start working on your own homework assignments early; it will only benefit you.
I am starting to develop feelings for this girl I just got to know. She’s great, funny, and gorgeous. However, there is a slight problem — her football-playing boyfriend. In my defense, she flirts with me and treats me specially. I don’t know what to do. Should I confess my feelings to her and sabotage her relationship or simply suppress my growing feelings?
— The Better Bet
Wow, you’ve gotten yourself into quite the situation here, and with a footballer’s girlfriend. Firstly, I suggest you find out whether her feelings toward you are romantic or if she’s just being a great friend. Some girls also have the tendency to be extra friendly with boys just to make their boyfriend jealous.
My recommendation would be to awaken that tough football player-like attitude within you and go speak to her. Tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels. If she says she likes you or is interested, I think your road is pretty easy from there. If she is confused, then be there for her, and support her decision. If she is using you, or is simply not interested, then you’re just wasting your time — there are many other fish in the sea. Speak to her directly and confidently, and if you’re afraid her boyfriend might beat you up, come to me, and I’ll teach you how to throw a couple of solid punches.
Man it up!