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I am thinking about moving in with my girlfriend next semester when my apartment lease runs out, but some of my friends don’t think it’s a good idea. What do you think?
—Moving In Or Out
We’re lucky that we can even consider the option of cohabitation — a couple generations ago it would have been scandalous even to think of it. Even so, just because coed housing is mostly accepted nowadays, it doesn’t mean living with your partner is necessarily a good idea. Living with someone you love can be like a fabulous dream, but make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons. Moving in with somebody to save money, to piss off your parents, or to test him or her out before marriage are all important considerations but are definitely not good reasons to do so.
Do remember, it’s difficult enough to break up with someone, but it’s even worse when you have to pack up boxes and break leases on top of the heartache. I am guessing this is the concern voiced by your friends. But, hey, love is all about risks, right? Just make sure you’ve thought about all the pros and cons and are ready to deal with them before signing that lease.
Enjoy your stay,
Help! My ex-girlfriend lives just down the hall from me, and though we’re still good friends, I have a big problem. I brought someone else home the other night and it was incredibly awkward. I don’t want to make my ex-girlfriend feel bad, but I need to move on!
—Seeking To Attract Girls
That’s an unfortunate
situation. However, it’s really good that you and your ex have managed to remain friends — that’s an accomplishment in and of itself. If you’re sure that there’s nothing between the two of you anymore (and you should really try to figure that out), then there’s no reason you shouldn’t go on living your life. That doesn’t mean rubbing it in her face, though.
Especially if it’s a one-night-only type of situation, there’s no reason you can’t stay in your room instead of hanging out in common areas. And, as always, turn on a stereo as a precaution. Trust me: The walls are always thinner than you think they are.
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