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What do you think about online dating? I tried finding girls in real life, but it just didn’t pan out. It’s all so much easier online, and you can learn if somebody would be compatible with you before meeting them. What do you say?
—Online Dating Devotee
Hey there ODD—
I’ve done some online dating in my time (have you tried okcupid.com?) and it definitely has its pluses and minuses. Sure, it seems like you can get some idea of your compatibility before meeting the person, but that doesn’t mean it’ll turn out the way you think. You might have a lot in common with somebody who turns out to be an ultra-weird eyebrow-fetishist Scientologist (unless you’re into that, in which case, woohoo for you) or somebody who turns out to be a 500-pound middle-aged guy named Larry, instead of a 19-year-old blonde. Besides, there’s always the chance that your blind date will kill you — always take your first dates to well-lit, crowded places and/or take along a burly friend. That being said, online dating can be a great way to build up your confidence, and you might actually meet somebody great. So, I would say keep it up if you’re careful, but I advise joining a new club, taking up a new sport, or volunteering somewhere; trying something new is a great way to meet new people, not to mention a great way to learn about yourself.
I live off campus, and my roommates are sweet and all, but they seem to be incapable of washing dishes. The sink is always crammed full, attracting flies and stinking like hell. I can’t even get in the sink to do my dishes. When my roommates’ dishes are all dirty, they use mine! And, Myrtle, we even have a dishwasher! I’ve talked to them about it; and when I do, they get better for a couple of days, but then the sink is full again. What do I do?
—Frustrated in Squirrel Hill
My poor FISH,
Been there, man. One of the problems with living off campus is that you don’t have an RA to mediate tough problems for you. It’s time to call a house meeting and explain clearly what your problem is, why it bothers you, and what you would like them to do; but don’t dictate — discuss. Try to tell them what’s wrong by explaining how it inconveniences you — flies, hard to do your own dishes, etc. — rather than calling them the disgusting, disrespectful slobs they are. Make it clear that you would prefer them not to use your dishes without asking; focus on yourself and what you need. If that still doesn’t work, or if tempers run high, you could try bringing in an unbiased party (a friend of a friend, perhaps) to help mediate. As a last resort, you could get a crate and stack the dirty dishes outside, where the flies can feast as they please and the sink will be clean. Good luck!