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Dear Janet,

I think I might be too picky when it comes to dating. There aren’t a lot of gay guys on campus that I really like, for various reasons. Sometimes I think it’s better to just be alone than to settle for someone, but what if my expectations are too high?

–Seeing No One Better

Dear SNOB,

If you’re searching for a relationship, I don’t think there’s any reason to waste your time with someone you’re just not feeling a connection with. It’s hard enough to find somebody worth dating, and when you factor in your orientation and your personal tastes, and the fact that we’re in Pittsburgh, the dating pool shrinks far more. Are you looking exclusively at Carnegie Mellon? There’s a whole city of hot boys out there just waiting to meet a smart, sexy stud-muffin like yourself. I’d also suggest looking around online — you may be surprised at how much more open people can be about their preferences on the Internet. You should really only be worried about having standards too high if you’ve been in the real world for a while and you still can’t find anyone you like.

–Janet

Dear Janet,

Help! My ex-girlfriend lives just down the hall from me, and though we’re still good friends, I have a big problem. I brought someone else home the other night, and it was incredibly awkward. I don’t want to make my ex-girlfriend feel bad, but I need to move on!

–Seeking To Attract Girls

Dear STAG,

That’s an unfortunate situation. However, it’s really good that you and your ex have managed to remain friends — that’s an accomplishment in and of itself. If you’re sure that there’s nothing between you anymore (and you should really try to figure that out), then there’s no reason you shouldn’t go on living your life. That doesn’t mean rubbing it in her face, though. Especially if it’s a one-night-only type of situation, there’s no reason you can’t stay in your room instead of hanging out in common areas. And, as always, turn on a stereo while you’re doing it. Trust me, nobody ever wants to hear that, and the walls are always thinner than you think they are.

–Janet